When "Nothin" Is Nothin

Do you remember how old you were when you played doctor or nurse for the first time? Think about it...this is a REALLY important question. My husband told me it is when you are older (than 4 1/2) I hope he is right.

For the life of me I can't remember what age I was when I started playing that game.I do remember playing it maybe,um, once or twice ya know! I HOPE this game is no longer popular and kids today are busy with so many other toys that it will not even be an issue. I mean when I was growing up there was not that much to play with; today kids have SO much more than we ever had, right? This is NOT making me feel any better. Sort of like Christmas...there can be a ton of presents but the child likes the box the best...UH OH I might be in BIG trouble.

Little Bits started a camp and has become friendly with this little boy Aiden (whose name I love and it always makes me think of Aiden from Sex and The City...HOTTIE)It started out very sweet. She came home from camp one day and told me Aiden is always trying to hug her, with a huge smile on her face. Then the next day she started talking about him more, then several times after that I asked her about her day and she told me she shared cheese curls with Aiden and played with Aiden.

All week it has been Aiden....Aiden ....Aiden. When I pick her up at camp she says good-bye to Aiden and not to anyone else. The other day I went to find her (at pick-up time) and, um, she was in a room with Aiden (alone) and when I asked her what she was doing she said in a very coy voice "nothin". I have the typical little miss 4 year old who thinks she can do everything herself including driving and forgets that she is not 30. Her "nothin" was suspicious but also the way she looked at me was too.

So, after days of racking my brain, I still can not remember how old I was when I became curious and played doctor. I do remember in my early years of grade school we would pretend to get married. Is this just her first real crush and I have nothing to worry about? I am not ready to handle this...I feel like I am still just cathching my breath from the toddler years.


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Anything Fits A Naked Man August 8, 2010 6:56 PM  

Oh, Gosh, that's a good question! I'm afraid I won't be much help, since I'm not a parent. I honestly don't think I ever played doctor, to be honest. I remember my younger brother went to take a bath one day and, curious, I asked him to show me his "junk." He did. I looked, then went back to my dolls.

Is there a chance this could just be innocent curiosity? I'm sure the comments from mothers after me will be much more helpful! Good luck!

areyoukiddingme August 8, 2010 7:12 PM  

My 3 year old told me the other day that a boy in the 4 year old class at daycare tried to kiss her. It's apparently going around...

T Rex Mom August 8, 2010 7:42 PM  

Maybe it was just nothing...

I am still relating to your statement about catching your breath from the toddler years - that's what it feels like right now!

parenting ad absurdum August 8, 2010 7:46 PM  

I'm afraid that it was around 5 yrs... but I was kinda precocious. I hate to even think about it!

RawknRobynsGoneBlogWild August 8, 2010 9:06 PM  

I'm a very naive non-Mom, but I think 4 is too young to be doing "nothing" alone with a boy. I'm wondering what the camp counselors were doing that two 4 year olds were off on their own. I think they are the ones who deserve a talking to!
xoRobyn

The Empress August 8, 2010 10:55 PM  

Yeah, yeah, I would go with your gut and sit down and have a friendly, very sane, chat.

Just ask, why they like to be alone. You could do it so easily and in a non threatening way by asking, "wow. I really noticed you like to be alone with Aiden. What do you like about that?" That's so much more conducive to self disclosure than "were you doing something with Aiden?" you know?

DG at Diary of a Mad Bathroom August 9, 2010 4:31 AM  

I think it was 5 or 6. The kindergarten years for me. That's when I told my mother that I was going to marry Bobby Nicholls (my MD at the time).

Debbie August 9, 2010 6:23 AM  

I remember having my first major crush at 6. Don't worry - it didn't lead to anything bad:)

SoccerMom August 9, 2010 10:59 AM  

How stressful. I do know that once they hit 6th grade life gets really stressfull.

You just gotta keep your eye on those darn boys.

Aging Mommy August 9, 2010 11:41 AM  

My daughter is three and recently finished her first year at preschool durin which she changed favorite boy friends a couple of times. Quite often when I picked her up she would tell me she had been kissing whoever was the current favorite "but only once" as if for some reason one kiss was fine and more were not :-) One of the boys swapped favorite girl friend throughout the entire year causing some rivalry. So all this seems perfectly natural, what would concern me is why 4 year olds are being allowed to go off on their own, so I think a talk with the camp counselors is required rather than with your daughter.

Joey @ Big Teeth and Clouds August 9, 2010 5:38 PM  

I never played doctor in that way. I thought maybe you meant like a little play stethoscope or something. Sheesh.

My daughter is very kissy and huggy with her friends, both boys and girls. I'm pretty sure I've conveyed the inappropriateness of seeing what we keep covered with underwear.

My one funny story is about her little cousin, my nephew Mikey. Apparently while at my mom's house they all went to the bathroom together and Julia saw Mikey's wee wee. She says, "Oh, my dad has that, that little stick hanging down."
Of course my dad latched on to the fact that she called it a "little stick" and teased Tim mercilessly.
Then on a subsequent visit with my nephew, Julia mentioned the "stick" again and Mikey says, "Yeah, my dad has that too. Only his is a lot bigger."
Leave it to the 4 and 5-year-olds to bring heated penis envy to the family!

Linda Medrano August 10, 2010 9:41 AM  

My grandson was about 4 when he announced to the entire room that he LOVES his cousin, Hannah. He then told her "when we get home, let's lay down together and kiss, okay?" Guess what! They are still both intact.

Adventures In China August 10, 2010 5:38 PM  

I think about 4 or 5 years old. I remember it, but not how old I was. So pretty young, I guess!

Keri August 11, 2010 7:42 AM  

I don't have kids and I'm too old to remember personal experience back that far. But last week when my 3 year old nephew went to the doctor because of a little blister on his penis, the doctor looked at it and said it was nothing to be alarmed about, and otherwise he looked perfect. In the car on the way home he said to his Mommy from the back seat "Mommy, my penis is perfect" cracks me up. Love the blog. Keri

Andrea August 11, 2010 7:43 PM  

Playing dr was young for me, but I had older sibs. Nothin' is probably nothing though!! Hang in there mama!

孫邦柔 August 12, 2010 6:59 PM  

人不能像動物一樣活著,而應該追求知識和美德............................................................

Aimee August 12, 2010 10:58 PM  

LOL i was 8!!!

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Michaela (aka Mama Michie) August 14, 2010 9:00 AM  

Oh boy! I don't remember ever playing doctor, but then again I had a little brother so there was nothing to be curious about. I do remember getting "married" in kindergarten though!

Lexie Loo & Dylan Too August 16, 2010 8:09 PM  

I can't remember ever playing doctor?!?
My son and a girl in his Pre-K class had a nice relationship last year. It involved lots of hugging and kissing. He's such a ladies man.

Unknown Mami August 17, 2010 10:51 AM  

I don't think I've ever played doctor.

俊王王王王霖王王 August 19, 2010 5:10 AM  

真正仁慈的人,會忘記他們做過的善行,他們全心投入現在的工作,過去的事已被遺忘。.................................................

Life is good! August 20, 2010 3:47 PM  

i also remember playing dr. but i don't remember how old i was. however at 52 years old i think i may play it once again, haha!

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Brittney September 10, 2010 1:52 PM  

eek thats a little scary haha! I dont think I played doctor that young but hell I dont remember! Good Luck!

ZenMom September 16, 2010 5:39 AM  

Since my kids have sapped any brain power I have left, I honestly can't remember when we played doctor. Probably about 5 or so, I think.

Your little one sounds like my oldest when she was 4. Now she's 14 and I'm scared to death!

Bobbie September 17, 2010 3:06 PM  

Hello,
I am following your from Twittermoms :) Ya know, I don't remember at all playing Dr. either even though I am sure I did once or twice...

Much More Than Mommy September 17, 2010 10:01 PM  

I remember my mom rescuing me when a family friend's son was trying to get me to 'show him mine'... I was probably younger than my older daughter is now, and she just turned 7... Yikes.

Molly October 6, 2010 4:00 PM  

My 4 year old has had a "boyfriend" at school since last year...I can't remember it starting that early!

Dude, hope you're well!!!!

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Mashuga Mom October 18, 2010 6:52 PM  

Man, my son showed his penis to a lil girl in his class.... I guess playing doctor started already. I better watch out for him.... & for HER.

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The Girl Next Door Grows Up October 26, 2010 12:26 PM  

What is wrong with me? I was a cute kid, but never played Doctor. I did get my 1st kiss at age 5, though. At my birthday party :-)

Gayla Tanner October 28, 2010 10:06 AM  

You've gotten a lot of good advice here, especially from the Empress. It's just kids imitating adults. When I was about 4 I saw my aunt and uncle marry, so I married the neighbor boy almost daily. His brother was the minister, mine was the bestman, my poodle was my maid of honor. I ended up breaking his heart because I wouldnt' marry him "for real" until he quit wetting his pants. He quit, but by then I moved on. =D

Mrs. Dawkter November 3, 2010 9:37 PM  

I'm catching up on my blogs and it looks like you are MIA? Where are you? Hope everything is okay!

LenaLoo November 8, 2010 11:55 AM  

Hmmm I don't know... I am soooo not ready for that stage! Thanks for coming by my blog :)

Edie Mindell November 22, 2010 1:42 AM  

I remembered I was 7 at the time I had a crush on a boy.:-) Don't fret too much about it. It's really nothing. Just a crush and all.:-)

Katrina November 22, 2010 6:12 AM  

My oldest is 6 & he tries to play doctor with is 3 1/2 yr old sister...she looks at like its just a game however, he is curious & in that experimental stage, like let's see if this works. I have been careful with their supervision & nothing seems harmful as far as I have seen.

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Forest Rose December 1, 2010 5:43 PM  

Yeah, I deal with the same weirdness with my 4 yr old daughter, but even worse (ugh) her boy COUSIN!
Why can't they just stay toddler mentality at least about boys...lol! Stopped by to follow from twittermoms follow discussion:)

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Bella @ If This is Motherhood December 18, 2010 5:31 PM  

My son is now 8. At 3, he and a little girl I babysat "fell in love". They even got married at a bubble gum machine. It was adorable. Today, we have been living in a different state for 3 years. My son and his "wife" are still totally in love and planning the names of their first child after college lol. Even with the distance, the whole "relationship" thing has kept them from exploring their options at school because they are committed. i don't know how this works lol....I was worried at first. They DID get caught "playing doctor around 4 and half, but never again since. They even spend the summers together in alternating schedules. Her mom and I are very strict about the doctor thing now.

Michelle December 31, 2010 6:23 AM  

I wouldn't worry about it...I used to teach preschool, and kids that age really are just curious about each other and make friends based upon what they like, not based upon girl/boy.

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Mashuga Mom January 1, 2011 10:14 PM  

My 5-yr-old told me only the Doctor, his parents & a little girl from his class can see his penis because she asked him to show it to her. Woa!!!! I think in some countries they might be married.
Crazy kids!!!!!!

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Karo March 10, 2011 8:25 PM  

I'm afraid my memory sucks! I have no idea what I did before 7 years old. How pathetic is that!

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dana April 3, 2011 4:06 PM  

Well don't I feel stupid. I never did play doctor OR nurse. Now I know what's been missing all my life! uh...no.

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Mashuga Mom April 12, 2011 8:31 PM  

My 4-yr-old told me only the Doctor and his 5-year-old girlfriend K can see his penis....Uhhh, hello, say that again?!
Yeah, I'm guessing that's the right age for "Doctor" play.

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paper writing service June 10, 2011 2:56 PM  

Nobody can give you an advice!!!!

Only your own feelings and your own thoughts. Try to remember her eyes, her voice. It's very important. And compare it with other situations. Was annoyed? Why, because you are always trying to suspect her, or because you interrupted something??

Usually people say 'nothing', when they just want to tell the truth...

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